Whatever
comes after, "I'm afraid. . ." is holding us back. These fears are often
expressed as part of common conversation or in talking about our business, work,
the economy, the family, home, and a thousand other things. Get rid of it. Stop
using that beginning and stop talking about what you're afraid of.
I
was talking with a business owner today and he was saying he was fearful of
this, afraid that wasn't going to work out, fearful of the unknown future, and
much more. Then I found out his business was down significantly. I said that I
had two solutions. The first was to stop worrying, talking about and emphasizing
your fears. You are living in fear and are anchored to the ground as a result.
The second was to try a better approach to making sales and I had a lot to offer
there.
Our
own fears are insidious enough, but to have our customers, friends, associates
and others talking negatively about the world, the economy, what is and isn't
made in the USA anymore, and ten thousand other complaints, adds to the general
negativity in our fearful life. Then, to make this a compound fracture, we agree
with them, and discuss it at length adding our own stories, thoughts
and complaints.
Some
may say it is just conversation. Jim Rohn covers that well with this thought:
"Some people you can afford to spend a few minutes with, but not a few hours."
Then he says, "Get around people who have something of value to share with you.
Their impact will continue to have a significant effect on your life long after
they have departed."
The
seemingly innocent things we say to each other matters more than we think.
Facebook has a great deal of value, but complaining with each other is not one
of them. Always fighting against things is not one of them. There is so much
positive energy and experience in the world, but when you're complaining all the
time, you cannot see it.
Think
of it as if you're in a rowboat in a flowing river. As you row and row and row
upstream fighting the current and struggling as best you can, all you can see
and feel is stress and work and pain. Yet all it takes to change that pattern is
to stop rowing. Let it go. When someone is complaining, stop agreeing with them.
Do not extend their conversation, customer or not. Be polite, sure, but don't
encourage them either. It isn't beneficial for you and it isn't beneficial to
them. Just let go of the oars.
It
is the same with fear. Stop rowing, fighting the fears, worrying about the
future, concerned about circumstances. Just stop rowing and let it go. And, even
though you've probably developed a strong habitual pattern of rowing upstream.
Each time you notice that you're doing it again, just stop rowing and
relax.
Everything
will work out just fine. Seriously. It will.
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