Daily Inspiration 5-19-12

"Have a dialogue between two opposing parts and you will find. . .that they always start out fighting each other. . .until we come to an. . . appreciation of differences. . .a oneness and integration of the two opposing forces. Then the civil war is finished, and your energies are ready for your struggle with the world." -- Frederick Perls The quote above I pondered for a time and the key phrase is appreciation of differences. It seems that we notice the differences between each other, and we often take and immediate like or dislike to others quickly based on their visible attributes and/or location, and/or association with others, such as people in groups. It's interesting to consider why we feel the way we do in those instances. Our judgement takes over and makes decisions quickly; this is good, this is not good, and more. When if we lingered just a bit longer than normal, temporarily shut down our judicial system, we might be able to see something in the other that we can appreciate--and here's a key--even if that something is something we would not normally appreciate. Anthony Robbins loves to ask questions, and so he might say, "what do you like about this person?" and you might say, "well, I can't see anything that I like." And, immediately he would say, "well, if you could like something about them, what might that be?" Then people always find something, then another and so on. It's really funny to me how that seemingly insignificant twist in words makes such a difference in getting to a better answer. To me, the only benefit to opposition is bringing to my awareness that I am not appreciating or allowing differences to coexist. This awareness then gives me the opportunity once again to make a better, more loving choice.

"When We Seek To Discover The Best In Others, We Somehow Bring Out The Best In Ourselves." -- William Arthur Ward   Spread Some Joy Today--You can never go wrong with a choice made in love.