In
my twenties, I became enlightened enough to say, "shit happens," as a way of
explaining how or why things happened. It was part resignation and part
acceptance of the reality, yet there was still, even with that enlightened
attitude, too much attention given to the event.
Since
then, with thousands of hours of study, hundreds of books from a wide variety of
teachers, I've come to a far more enlightened position when things happen. I
accept full responsibility even as if I created them on purpose. This is
something I never would have done in the past, but I have crossed that line into
new territory.
I'll
tell you why. By accepting responsibility for whatever happens in my life,
and even looking at it as if I created it that way on purpose, it takes all of
the excitement of focusing on the problem away. Yes, excitement.
I
used to get so jacked up about the problems and look at them from every angle
and figure out who I could blame and seek justice and feel victimized, share it
with whomever may choose to listen, and hash theirs over with them as well. And,
yes, there was a certain excitement in that because it wasn't me that created
it, but I was an innocent victim of some bad luck.
Then
I read things such as the quote above and much more that got me trying to see
things differently. I began practicing accepting whatever happened as my own
responsibility, rather than that of others. I tell you, this was so empowering!
You might think the opposite would be true, but that isn't the case. By
accepting responsibility I found it a total waste of time to look at the
problem, and instead began seeing solutions, or making better decisions in my
NOW so that these things would stop reoccurring in my life.
It
is working and it is working so well that I am thrilled by it. When I
stop focusing on what's wrong, I can then focus on what is right, how I can
improve, what I can do about it right now and so on. It's a whole different
feeling entirely. I highly recommend trying it and practicing it. I predict you
would have the same result: a new found joy!
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