"The true secret of giving advice is
after you have honestly given it,
to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not,
and never persist in trying to set people right."
-- Hannah Whitall Smith
[Classic post from 8-13-14]
This quote is indeed great advice and I have learned it from experience. Yet, what is even more important, when we can achieve this, is to never give advice unless it is requested by the party we are giving it to.
Sometimes it is merely, or rather, blatantly, our ego run amok. Many times this advice is meaningless small talk, but that is a great place to bring awareness so we can catch ourselves before we cross into a more important territory.
The truth is as I have seen it over and over again from experience, that people generally don't want advice. They may not even want it when they ask for it, but we will let that be their problem.
A better way? Share your experience and experiences. Share what you've learned and how it benefited you. You're not then an adviser as much as an observer.
There's No Fun In Pushing A Rope Anyway. . .
Spread Some Joy Today--Where did you hide that joy button? Let's uncover it and push it often today! People might think you're breathing rarefied air. Let them think what they will!
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