Sunday, September 16, 2012

Daily Inspiration 9-16-12

"Impatience is not a time issue or a mark
of selfishness. It is a trust issue
and a statement of fear."

-- Alan Cohen

I downloaded a book on my Kindle a few weeks back and I got about 15% into it, and tonight I opened it back up and started reading more. The book title is Enough Already: The Power of Radical Contentment by Alan Cohen. So, as I'm back reading, he is talking about having patience and how many people he knows and coaches are type 'A' people who are always having to 'do' something, and stopping for a bit of peace is not on the agenda--in fact, it isn't even on their radar.
 
That reading caused me to remember a meeting I had a couple days ago with two men. One was very easy going and enthusiastic and quite interested. He was engaged and asked questions, and really wanted to understand the whole picture as much as he could in a relatively short meeting. The other gentleman was obvious in his impatience. He wanted different answers. In fact, I believe he just wanted a miracle to appear right in the room and then he wouldn't have to deal with it. Yet, he persevered in allowing the other gentleman to ask questions and receive answers.
 
At the end of the meeting, the curious one asked yet another question and then started into a story. As we were standing and I was listening, I couldn't help but notice the other gentleman was looking more aggravated than impatient, so I suggested we move out of the office and end the meeting. We did.
 
And then, tonight, I read the quote above as part of the text in the book and I was amazed how powerfully it is stated and how true it seems to be. Impatience is not normally stated as fear, but, of course, that is exactly what it is. Yet it is even more in that the one who is impatient is not present. They are somewhere else. They are way ahead and the rest of us are holding up the way just like an impatient driver following on your tail. Indeed, they want to be somewhere else, get different answers, and more. It is resistance and not conducive to success.
 
Alan says in the book that "Things happen when they are ripe--not before or after. If you try to force something before it is ready, it won't work." So true. We still think otherwise as is often taught in that we have to 'make things happen.' A better route is to allow things to happen, and this requires patience.
 
He also quoted a Bible verse from James 1:4, which says, "And let patience have its perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, lacking in nothing."
 
I am amazed in the last few months of the volume and depth of things I am learning about patience and in so doing, applying them in my business and my life and amazed again at how successful that application really is.
"Patience Is Natural To Those Who Trust"
-- A Course in Miracles
 
Spread Some Joy Today--Find your patience. It is only for you to control.

Saturday, September 15, 2012

Daily Inspiration 9-15-12

"I have as much authority as the Pope,
I just don't have as many people who believe it."

-- George Carlin

I love this quote. Isn't is so true. We all have the authority to direct others, but it will only be the others that allow that to be.
 
Same thing with leadership and leaders, or husbands, or fathers, mothers and wives, teachers, sales managers, owners of businesses, vice presidents of marketing, the President of the United States, or anyone else.
 
There is only one person we have ultimate authority over and that is ourselves. Everyone else gives authority as it is deserved.
Just Because I Believe It, Doesn't Make It True.
 
Spread Some Joy Today--Be real. Be yourself.

Friday, September 14, 2012

Daily Inspiration 9-14-12

"You can't wait for inspiration.
You have to go after it with a club."

-- Jack London

I've had many people ask me how I do a daily inspirational message that I actually write myself every single day, 365 days a year, and now for several years. So, I thought that I would spill the beans and expose my strategy and methods to critical scrutiny.
 
First, I have many answers that I've given, but I have to sort of go along with my friend Jack London in that waiting for inspiration is a hit and miss proposition. I don't agree with the club part, but I agree with his sentiment behind it because that comes down to one word: commitment. I committed to doing it and so I convince myself to do it whenever I think I would rather not today.
 
Second, it is practical. I NEED the practice! I want to be a better writer, have always wanted to be a good writer, yet only in the last five years have I seriously practiced it. Before that I wrote a lot sporadically, never consistently and I think that the only way to get better at it is to practice it. Just like a baseball player who wants to hit better needs to go to the batting cage every single day, or as often as possible and practice hitting balls.
 
It's also practical in that I want to learn to express myself better, to have clear thoughts that can be expressed. To be myself and yet someone else at the same time is a good way to put it. But, it's more than this. I believe that the Universe can speak through me when I really am in tune and get myself out of the way, and when that happens, I feel it and others do too. That is fascinating.
 
Third is having a passion for sharing ideas, thoughts I've learned from others being reworded through my own understanding, and being of service. Some have said that these daily inspirations hold meaning for them and I am appreciative and in awe of that at the same time. So that helps keep me moving.
 
I have so much more to do in my life now than I did when I began this experiment, and yet I stick to this through thick and thin because it holds great meaning to me for the reasons I've expressed above.
 
As to how it gets done and where the stuff comes from--well, that is sometimes a challenge and always interesting. I think about my day and see if I have any lessons I've learned, things that stood out and so on. I reflect on books I'm reading, people and ideas I'm studying, things in my businesses, sometimes even my closer personal life. I always use a quote and sometimes I look at quotes and get inspired and other times none of the thousands that I have on file do anything for me, so I might even make one up. When I do that, I don't like putting my name, so I made one up: Albert K Strong. It's a bit of fun.
 
Other times, I know what I want to say and then find a quote that goes with that idea. Some have even commented that the quote I used and the story I told they would not have thought they went together but after reading it, they did. I know how they feel. . .
 
So, it is labor and usually at the end of the day between 10pm and midnight, almost always the last thing I do before going to bed. But it isn't really hard labor. Some days it flows very well and other times it is a struggle, but it must get done until I make a different decision some day.
 
There it is. All my secrets!
I Forgot To Mention That I Am A Better Person For Doing It--To Myself Anyway. . .
 
Spread Some Joy Today--Practice your passion. Get passionate about your practice!

Thursday, September 13, 2012

Daily Inspiration 9-13-12

"I look at modern life and I see people not taking responsibility
for their lives. The temptation to blame, to find external causes
to one's own issues is something that is particularly modern.
I know that personally I find that sense of responsibility interesting."

-- Edward Zwick

Ever have a flash in the night of some ah-ha understanding of some subject that you didn't even know you were thinking about? It's weird, but I had one last night.
 
I was thinking about business, but it applies equally to our personal lives. It was that we so often find reasons, blame things that are external to us, or to our business that we can show as justification for the way things are. It doesn't really matter if they are up or down, although probably the down will be blamed more than the up. You know what I'm talking about. . . it's the economy, the President, the administration, the government, the politicians, the weather, the lack of resources, and this list could go on forever.
 
But the thought that struck me in the middle of the night is that in my own experience in businesses that I have managed, worked in, been around, including my own, the external thing or things is not it. In fact, the external thing actually has very little to do with the way things are in the business, or in our personal lives.
 
It is internal.
 
As I thought about that it was as if I was transported through many years of many businesses and many problems and much blaming and it was sped up so that I saw about 40 years worth in just a few seconds. That was a trip! But, all of a sudden it jumped out at me that it seemed to be always the internal that was the problem.
 
One example is a business I was a manager in and the market was way off, but there were glimmers of prosperity here and there. It was easy to blame those circumstances, but the real problem was all the internal fighting, massive egos bouncing off one another, extremely poor decisions, slow decisions, selfish and even unethical behavior, cheating, lying, and more. Frankly with all that internal stuff going on, I could not see any hope of this business doing well even if the market was on fire. Nobody seemed to care, and especially the ones in charge. Killed from within, not from without.
 
I see a number of small businesses that die from within by working against themselves, not sticking to a plan of action long enough for it to work, afraid of making decisions and more. They may blame the economy for the decision to close the business, but the economy didn't kill them. It was suicide.
 
I did that in my own business back in 1981. I killed it. It was my ego not allowing me to make better business decisions and the store was closed for good.
 
I think the lesson is clear. If something is not working. Don't look outside, but look inside. It's not the business climate, it's the climate between our ears and with each other and how we view things. Ask good questions and make none of them about the world. The world will be what it is, but we have so much more control than we think if we only look at the real culprit in the mirror.
It's Not The Storm, It's The Termites.
 
Spread Some Joy Today--Step one: Stop blaming anything on the outside. Step two: Take a good look at your own behavior, attitude, and work ethic.

Wednesday, September 12, 2012

Daily Inspiration 9-12-12

"The human condition:
lost in thought."

-- Eckhart Tolle

I've talked about learning and practicing patience and how transformative that can be, as it has been in me. Part of that practice is being in the moment, which as we are all expert thinkers, is an ongoing challenge because as we are thinking, we are not experiencing the moment, but some past or future one.
 
One of the things that Eckhart taught me to help me practice is so simple, and it is just to begin immediately paying attention to my breathing, and even purposeful breathing. I have begun using this technique a great deal whenever I find my mind wandering through thoughts and projected scenarios. It is so helpful because as I do this, my thinking stops for that moment, and as I continue, I am calmer, more relaxed and without problems.
 
How many times I've gotten in my truck, started down the road, made a few turns and then realized that I was on auto-pilot and had no intention of going where I was going. I wanted to go left and I went right and I did it because I've done it many times and it is almost habitual, but the bigger reason is that I was lost in thought. Sound familiar?
 
Now I have a tool to help me recapture many of the moments that have been zipping by without notice because I was lost in thought. That tool is to immediately pay attention to my breathing. It is almost stupid simple, and it works every time. It's fascinating.
 
Today on my way to a meeting, travelling on the road, on to another meeting, there were many times I used this technique and it instantly brought me back to that place where I am just experiencing life and there are no problems. No bills, no worries, no issues, no problems. I like it there.
Enjoying The Moment.
 
Spread Some Joy Today--When someone is talking to you today, telling you a story, just pay complete attention to them and what they are saying. Give them your undivided attention.

Tuesday, September 11, 2012

Daily Inspiration 9-11-12

"The book you don't read won't help."

-- Jim Rohn

Tonight I was thinking about my day and walking past one of my bookcases and thought about picking a favorite ten to share. This is not necessarily the top ten books I would ever recommend, but of the 150 or so books on this shelf, this was the ten that I thought stood out to recommend for business owners, want-to-be business owners, managers, and more. Many are relatively new, others less so, and all are timeless as far as I'm concerned. So, here's the list in no particular order.
 
1. Rework by Jason Fried & David Heinemeier Hansson. Open it anywhere and you have some wonderful 1-3 page thoughts about business. I've learned a great deal from it and it is powerful.
 
2. Failing Forward by John C Maxwell. Pretty much any book by John is a wonderful book, but for me personally, this one was very uplifting and powerful. Highly recommend it.
 
3. There's No Such Thing As "Business" Ethics by John C Maxwell. Amen!
 
4. Purple Cow by Seth Godin. Be one!
 
5. Leadership Is An Art by Max DePree. One of my most favorite books of all time. Buy it. Read it. Re-read it periodically.
 
6. The Little Big Things by Tom Peters. Tom is all about excellence and finding ways to exercise our excellence. The benefits are obvious and he gives 163 ways in the great book.
 
7. Delivering Happiness by Tony Hsieh. Tony is the CEO of Zappos and this book is a very powerful book for business owners to savor.
 
8. Jeffrey Gitomer's Little Black Book of Connections. This has become the networking bible and a standard in the industry. It is a must have.
 
9. Social Boom! by Jeffrey Gitomer. How to master business social media and easy to digest at the same time.
 
10. It's a three-peat for Jeffrey Gitomer with one of the best business books to ever hit the market. If you only bought one book on the list, buy this one. The title is Customer Satisfaction Is Worthless. Customer Loyalty Is Priceless.
 
There it is. Maybe next time, I'll pick another top ten to share. These are so worth the time to read and even study. A most excellent selection indeed. Enjoy!
Leaders Are Readers!
 
Spread Some Joy Today--Read a great book. Maybe one of these.

Monday, September 10, 2012

Daily Inspiration 9-10-12

"Start by doing what is necessary,
then do what is possible,
and suddenly you are doing the impossible."

-- St Francis of Assisi

The fastest and best way to achieve anything is to begin. Right here. Right now. Do what is necessary, then on to what is possible to do and the impossible will fall off it's high horse to show up much smaller and more manageable than ever considered.
 
I've always loved Teddy Roosevelt's famous way of putting it: "Do what you can, with what you have, where you are."
The Key Words Are Start and Do.
 
Spread Some Joy Today--Pretend all your co-workers have six months to live. How will you treat them differently?

Sunday, September 9, 2012

Daily Inspiration 9-9-12


"A man who is a master of patience
is master of everything."


-- George Savile



Consider this equation that popped into my head today: Awareness + Adversity = Breakthrough.

I've talked several times of late about my desire to and practice in becoming a much more patient person. It is working so well that I get these 'ah-ha' moments realizing that I am actually exercising considerable, if not extreme patience in a normally stressful or irritating situation. Tonight there were more than one and it is so interesting to become aware that I am aware of seeing myself being more and more patient.

It also struck me tonight that adversity plays a major role in the process. Without adversity, there would be no need to learn, nothing to change, overcome, or make peace with. So, based on that, once we become aware, we may feel the desire to change or to feel better. Then we will be making changes in our thought process to respond to the adversity rather than to react to it. Without awareness, we would just keep repeating the same old reactionary patterns from the past, or as Einstein said how we think the same thoughts and hope for things to change which was his definition of insanity.

Consequently, I began to actually get excited about the idea of adversity being in the mix and playing a part in my growth to the point of having gratitude for it being there. Again, without the adverse situation, it would not be possible to change, nor would there be a need to.
Breakthrough of course, is that "ah-ha" moment. It is the realization that we have come through and are actually doing that which we hoped to achieve, which is to purposely and consciously be patient with life as it unfolds which can be the most natural a response.

So, to put it together, as I become more aware and meet adverse or irritating situations, or things, I have the opportunity to practice my patience, and in so doing achieve breakthroughs that strengthen, encourage, and excite me to continue to grow into more patience. Because I really do believe that he who is a master of patience is a master of everything else.

Bring It! I'm Eager For The Practice! And, So Enjoying The Change...

Spread Some Joy Today--What upsets you? How can you soothe that?

Saturday, September 8, 2012

Daily Inspiration 9-8-12

"Use what talent you possess:
the woods would be very silent
if no birds sang
except those that sang best."

-- Henry Van Dyke

I was looking at some quotes for an idea and the first one that got my attention was from Oliver Wendell Holmes, Jr. He said, "Many people die with their music still in them. Why is this so? Too often it is because they are always getting ready to live. Before they know it, time runs out." (By the way, he is such a fascinating person to read about!)
 
Then, a couple of moments later, I came across the quote above from Henry Van Dyke. This caused me to think about things I've tried and done even without much talent, and how I know many people who aren't willing to risk that small step to get out there and try it.
 
I've talked with people who have a book in them, but they leave it right there, when it is pretty easy to get it out and especially in today's world of instant publishing. All it takes is making a decision to actually do it, and the questions will get answered and the process will unfold appropriately.
 
So often, I think people get hung up on the idea of making a living doing that thing such as writing a book. If they would only let that idea go completely and just do it for fun, or because you have a passion about it, or any other reason than making money at it, doing that thing would become so much more natural. The money idea gets in the way.
 
So, let's take the book for example. Whether it is a novel, something you know a lot about, a historical perspective, poetry, or a photography coffee table book, you can get a professional product done through a team of people that are available to help you get that done. Sure, it will cost some of your hard-earned money, but you will be amazed that it isn't as much as you might imagine and the rewards at the the end seeing the product in your hands will make the investment insignificant.
 
Like Nike says, 'Just Do It!' If you need help, you will find it, just as I have.
 
I've also been a musician and wrote and recorded songs. I'll never forget the first professionally recorded product and how it changed the way I thought about my music and gave me so much more confidence. I ended up doing an album and then recorded many more songs, wrote around 150 and though most may not be very good, there are some that are good, so that works out just fine. I had a lot of fun doing that, recording and then playing them for others live too.
 
Though I was quite shy about it all in the beginning, I gained a great deal of confidence and increased skill and expertise. When I first got into it, I was thinking about making money at it, then I just let that go, and had fun with it. That proved to be the best decision and I highly recommend it.
 
If you're a musician and always wanted to record some of your songs, or even other people's songs, just do it. Finding someone to help produce the recording and then a recording studio to get the final product is not difficult at all. You can do it if you want to.
 
Whatever it is--building a race car, becoming a sculptor, songwriter, published author, all it takes is a desire to allow yourself to let it come out. Forget about the money, take some out of your pocket and invest it in your little project and go for it. You'll not be leaving with the music still in you and it really doesn't matter how good you are compared to others. All that matters is your desire to express yourself.
Let The Music Out. Just Do It.
 
Spread Some Joy Today--Feel deserving.

Friday, September 7, 2012

Daily Inspiration 9-7-12

"Sooner or later we must realize there is no station,
no place to arrive at once and for all.
The true joy of life is the trip."

-- Robert J Hastings

I am only now, just in the past few years, late in life getting this quote and getting this about my own life. I think it's just fine that I am getting it now, and I think that each of us will get it at different times in our lives. All that is perfect.
 
So much of my life I was focused on some destination, or the next destination. The job, the promotion, the new employer, the new car, the first home, the second home, and hundreds more. Sometimes I would read books about it, practice certain things, change my mindset and much more, all done to get me closer to the all important destination.
 
And, as I reached each one, it was good for a little while, then I naturally wanted something else. It's just the way we creators work. We see what we don't like, decide what we want and then march toward it. It's all good.
 
The difference now-- and this really truly is a dramatic difference in my head--is that I am enjoying the travel, or the unfolding, the excitement of what may come next, what surprises I will find, a deliciousness about my enjoyment of life that I can't say I've ever experienced quite like this.
 
He says above, 'the true joy of life is the trip.' I would change that just a little dinky bit, but it will change the meaning a bit as well. I would say, 'the true joy of life is the living of it.'
 
Things hold so much less meaning for me than ever before. Not that I don't like things. I do. It's just that it is not they that are so important as they used to be. Now it is being aware of living and enjoying my life, doing what I love to do, being around people I want to be around, and staying as true to myself as I possibly can. The destination is now general, allowing the unfolding to take me somewhere I might not have imagined. And, it's not only good, it's perfect.
You Could Say I'm Now A Practicing Lifer!
 
Spread Some Joy Today--How important was that last thing? Maybe the daily grind is more like the daily tasting. . .

Thursday, September 6, 2012

Daily Inspiration 9-6-12

"The real act of discovery is not in finding new lands,
but in seeing with new eyes."

-- Marcel Proust

I love this quote. It is so short and so full at the same time. How many times I have got into a routine of seeing things only to become so blind to the possibilities, or to the beauty that is there that I couldn't yet see.
 
Sometimes, it might take a little break, or a period of refreshment, and something I think that works better is looking at it from a different angle--or a new perspective.
 
I was watching a short little video the other day by John C Maxwell where he was talking about perspective and saying that perspective is everything. We each choose the perspective that we filter everything through and we may not realize it, but we can choose to change that perspective.
 
One fast way to change a perspective is to ask new questions. Here's an example: 'OK. I see this still isn't working and I'm not liking it still. I'm so tired of this situation. It's really dragging me down, draining my energy and spirit.' Change that to, 'I'm wondering. . . what if there was a silver lining to this situation? What might that be? What is good about this? What is right about this? Does anyone benefit from this situation? Do I benefit from it?'
 
The grass is rarely greener on the other side, but we've got to stop looking at our so hard that we no longer see any green. It's there. We just need some new eyes.
'I SEE! I SEE! Said The Blind Man, As He Turned Around And Found A New Perspective. . .
 
Spread Some Joy Today--Laugh often and much today. Let's have fun and enjoy the day.